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Finding purpose outside of work

In our modern age, our lives depend on work, so much so that many of us question our sense of purpose. The economy is built on profit and competition which sees people’s lives depend entirely on their wages. Work-life today means more than household chores but a lifetime spent earning and living. It means having a career – an identity where we earn and spend most of our hours and days away from our family and serving the economy. The established status quo, where we are raised from schooling to work life, would lead us to assume lasting fulfilment is around the corner, possibly found in the workplace. It’s no surprise the talk of who we are comes down to talking about what job or career we pursue. However, the meaning of who we are is not found nor established in our work life. The jobs or career paths we take are mostly circumstantial, carved by events and constraints, at times borne out of a necessity to make a simple living. This is not anti-work but an important reminder that our purpose and meaning stem from places beyond our alienating economy, in our personal lives concerning how we think, communicate and enjoy our spare hours. This article seeks to highlight the lack of purpose in modern work life in which many of us are replaceable numbers. It will then be emphasised that the way we spend our spare hours has a major impact on feeling and maintaining self-worth. Finally, the article will offer some advice for finding passions and building character.

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Why you must fail to succeed – failure as a step to success

There is no succeeding without failing. You probably have heard it countless times from cliché quotes and inspiring speeches about the need to get up and keep going. This general lesson of perseverance, however, comes mostly with images and stories and rarely an explanation as to why stumbling in life is okay. There persists for many an overwhelming fear and shame around failing, only made worse by the glam and hustle culture promoted online. The concern about failure reaches such levels even the currently successful confess to being afraid of pushing further in life because of the potential risks and shame from family and friends in tasting their first defeat. Today many people suffer from this symptom of portentous failure. Whether you are yet to fail or already have, the fear of succeeding has become symptomatic in the social media age. We see the dream lives of celebrities and YouTubers, extraordinary never-seen-before projects, and unimaginable wealth. It is easy to get lost amongst the grand ideals and images of success. We must all get comfortable with failing if we want to pursue lasting success throughout life. This article seeks to remind others that failure is a necessary stage to success in many parts of our lives- by failing we can learn, discover, appreciate and push.

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The Pursuit of Success: small-steps and self-improvement

There are many times in our lives when we can feel left behind. Today’s glamorous world tells us whatever we are doing is not enough. The mark of excellence, achievement and the weight of the rich and powerful stand tall and wide. The globalised world, where our work, lifestyles and knowledge get put into a polyarchy of competition. They show us that progress is not only far but also material. It would appear for anyone to be of relevance they must be capable of reporting back a competing list of extraordinary achievements, wealth and status. There is nothing inherently wrong with striving to be the world’s best. However, chasing success for its own sake can be destructive. For a start, there is no finish line as commonly perceived. The chase will always continue, so you best be sure what you are doing is worth your time. Many soon discover their popular image of success still leaves them unfulfilled. Success in its popular perception derives from a perception of others, failing to consider the more important, personal element- self-improvement.  Today’s pressure to succeed now reaches overwhelming levels. The constant pressure to keep up with our peers raises the question- have we all become lazier or are we just chasing too much in a world that never stops demanding? Dr K from his YouTube channel HealthyGamers deconstructs the left-behind mindset, revealing the ways the popular perception of success gives way to deep-seated fears and obstacles. We can learn achievement/success through only social comparisons can become our worst enemies. Success must come from a deeper hunger to improve oneself. By shedding light on the importance of delayed gratification, acceptance and gradualism, success can be a proactive process for everyone. In this way, more of us can stop dwelling on failure and work to bring change in ourselves and others.

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How to make the most out of university

After leaving university, my precarious existence has made me question whether a stronger mindset could have carved a stronger path. Thoughts about job security, money, housing, relationships and more have come flooding into mind for someone who only thought about learning. Now, perhaps like others, I find myself as a lone fish wandering the seabed. Learning can no longer be the sole focus. The need for survival and building a future turns a period of curious abstraction and rationalisation futile. The market comes with a price and demands its character and practice. After years stuck in the academic hole as a naïve youngster, the leap into the competitive economy been a difficult and awkward one. Graduation soon brings with it a stretch of adulthood, entering spiralling questions about one’s role, purpose and prospects. If you are like me, still wandering this lush planet, life looks all but ominous amidst continuous job applications and anxiety over what the future holds for you. Estimates suggest more than 2.3 million graduates are searching for a job while only around 30,000 graduate job vacancies are advertised per month. University is life-changing, it can be the proudest feeling for not just students but also their family. However, despite the many successes’ university can bring, my time after graduation was a descent into the abyss. I suddenly felt lonely and worthless.  The paradox being a university degree never felt so worthless. While I do not regret the enlightening experiencing of going to university, the purpose of this article is to remind students there is great value in thinking practically about their future. Gaining knowledge and intelligence is great but it is not the same thing as experience and wisdom; a degree is not everything, work is not everything.

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Manchester united’s long path back to glory

*This was originally written on 15 May 2019, quite a throwback. Despite changing scenes, similar themes and weaknesses still stand relevant today for a Manchester United fan. I hope you enjoy the read.

Manchester United are in a deep crisis. If the past five years wasn’t revealing enough, the latter part of this season has fully exposed the gulf of class, passion and identity with their past and the present top-end of the Premier League. Solksjaer provided United with wonders after Mourinho’s departure. They had a sudden bounce in their approach as they picked up a strong winning run of games. As Linekar exclaimed, Solksjaer’s early run-in may have been one of the best job application for full-time management football has seen. Everything was going so right, an adored club legend who appeared to be bringing back the glorious past and the ‘United way’ of doing things in the return of attacking football. Chants of ‘Ole’s at the wheel’ rang around the club and rightly so, they clinched victories against Spurs, Chelsea and PSG through a phenomenal comeback which I believe exceeded expectations for most fans.

Today United have fallen back into the dismal pit they’ve fallen into under the last three managers. Paul Ince went as far as claiming ‘anyone could have done Solksjaer has done“. His comment was harsh but when distancing oneself from any allegiance there is room to accept a blissful run cannot cover over deeper changes needed at the club.

Manchester United in its latest stage of the crisis has embarrassingly lost against relegated side Cardiff and accomplished only two wins in the last twelve games. The end of Solksjaer’s ‘honeymoon’ period reawakens fans to an undeniable reality that Manchester United requires systemic rebuilding. While Solksjaer’s inexperience raises fears about the prospect of returning to glory, the continuation of crises reminds fans the issues lay deeper.

Besides many players being simply unfit for the club, the mess amongst the first-team squad stems from the club’s insidious, rotting core. The abysmal operations at the top-end are encapsulated by short-termism and neglect for the serious task at hand, the restructuring of Manchester United since Sir Alex Ferguson’s retirement. A mountain of a task awaits Solksjaer which he would need every backing. This summer will be crucial for his future and the recovery of Manchester United. There are three central areas needing to be addressed that will be pivotal to how United return for the new season and move towards a new future.

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