Category: Self-Help (page 1 of 2)

April 18, 2026 / 0 Comments

Finding joy and love in authenticity

In today’s society, you can never be enough. It pains me to think how anyone can be expected to keep up with the modern world. With the internet, consumer and social trends are overabundant, shifting and shaping the people we strive to become. There is maintaining our beauty, exercising, work life, organising our finances, keeping up with current affairs, catching up with the latest TV shows, movies and celebrities; relationships; children; family members and events. The list goes on, raising the question of how do ever we know or become who we want to be when so many people and events shape our actions? The pressure to do and become can be suffocating. Seeing others rise and fall in social rankings leaves us all questioning whether we could ever become someone of significance. This social itch to become brings discussions about content and happiness. This article aims to highlight that the person striving for contentment today will have to simplify both their material surroundings and their mental attitude. The practical response is to be found in the underappreciated virtue of Authenticity. If we strive to live morally truthful, honest lives based on stronger self-acceptance, the toxins of resentment cease to exist. Authenticity grants us a life that is real, made by our actions and not one fuelled by competition, resentment, jealousy or cynicism.

December 7, 2024 / 0 Comments

Can AI truly replace the art of human writing?

This article was not written by AI. There can be little denial that humanity have entered a new era, the age of Artificial Intelligence. This has long been the dream of humanity, the next stage where we lay down our tools and minds and give up some of our autonomy to servicing robots. Humanity’s information overabundance has now reached true automation. As every industry and sector pours their resources into AI integration, it has been the release of AI chatbots that has taken society by storm. Messenger bots like ChatGPT, Microsoft CoPilot and Gemini now offer instant answers to all our questions, from problem solving to researching and analysis. One topic that has not been discussed enough, however, has been the surge of AI chatbots as ‘writing companions’. AI writing has flooded every computer screen and submitted essay. Words are no longer being merely spell-checked but wholly amended for ‘better’ structure and grammar. With these ‘perfect’ AI written work, we ought to ask: will the cause for human writing remain strong and distinguishable in the exponential growth of Artificial Intelligence? One may argue this was everything we wanted – writing done in seconds to leave the human mind restful for all other things. Ultimately, this article will examine the dimensions to our increasing trust of AI writing. I will highlight the many uses AI seeks to serve as an undeniable, powerful tool to automation and learning. I then seek to raise caution to the overreliance of AI towards writing. Even in our most imperfect forms, writing reflects a human attitude, a response to our environment and a never-ending source of originality from our indecipherable realities.

July 17, 2024 / 0 Comments

Finding purpose outside of work

In our modern age, our lives depend on work, so much so that many of us question our sense of purpose. The economy is built on profit and competition which sees people’s lives depend entirely on their wages. Work-life today means more than household chores but a lifetime spent earning and living. It means having a career – an identity where we earn and spend most of our hours and days away from our family and serving the economy. The established status quo, where we are raised from schooling to work life, would lead us to assume lasting fulfilment is around the corner, possibly found in the workplace. It’s no surprise the talk of who we are comes down to talking about what job or career we pursue. However, the meaning of who we are is not found nor established in our work life. The jobs or career paths we take are mostly circumstantial, carved by events and constraints, at times borne out of a necessity to make a simple living. This is not anti-work but an important reminder that our purpose and meaning stem from places beyond our alienating economy, in our personal lives concerning how we think, communicate and enjoy our spare hours. This article seeks to highlight the lack of purpose in modern work life in which many of us are replaceable numbers. It will then be emphasised that the way we spend our spare hours has a major impact on feeling and maintaining self-worth. Finally, the article will offer some advice for finding passions and building character.

February 20, 2024 / 1 Comment

Is Stoicism still useful today?

With the many different paradigms of human life, the struggle to define a good life has forever been debated. What really is a good life? For all we know of poverty, deprivation and destruction, the qualities of individual peace and harmony are far more than material – our psyches, physical well-being, social belongingness, friends, and family. The list goes on to prove the core pillar lies spiritual. Our current times remind us more than ever that no number of indulgences in food and entertainment, nor developments in Artificial intelligence and technology, can silence worry and sadness. In the real world, of prevailing good and evil, the answer is not utopian happiness but a much bigger mix of individual fulfilment. The ancient Stoics realised this millenniums ago and it is through their philosophical discussions and debates we arrive at the same position, wanting the good life. Stoicism today, however, goes overlooked as being impractical and sterile from the present-day luxuries and social divisions. This article seeks to explain Stoicism, and its core tenets and argue it remains a strong force against today’s overwhelming consumer and information age. As a mental framework for daily living, it offers inspiration to remain principled, yet pragmatic in life’s precarious journey. To uphold essential virtues of good character and conduct through an ever-changing world.

February 25, 2023 / 0 Comments

Why you must fail to succeed – failure as a step to success

There is no succeeding without failing. You probably have heard it countless times from cliché quotes and inspiring speeches about the need to get up and keep going. This general lesson of perseverance, however, comes mostly with images and stories and rarely an explanation as to why stumbling in life is okay. There persists for many an overwhelming fear and shame around failing, only made worse by the glam and hustle culture promoted online. The concern about failure reaches such levels even the currently successful confess to being afraid of pushing further in life because of the potential risks and shame from family and friends in tasting their first defeat. Today many people suffer from this symptom of portentous failure. Whether you are yet to fail or already have, the fear of succeeding has become symptomatic in the social media age. We see the dream lives of celebrities and YouTubers, extraordinary never-seen-before projects, and unimaginable wealth. It is easy to get lost amongst the grand ideals and images of success. We must all get comfortable with failing if we want to pursue lasting success throughout life. This article seeks to remind others that failure is a necessary stage to success in many parts of our lives- by failing we can learn, discover, appreciate and push.

December 17, 2022 / 2 Comments

The Pursuit of Success: small-steps and self-improvement

There are many times in our lives when we can feel left behind. Today’s glamorous world tells us whatever we are doing is not enough. The mark of excellence, achievement and the weight of the rich and powerful stand tall and wide. The globalised world, where our work, lifestyles and knowledge get put into a polyarchy of competition. They show us that progress is not only far but also material. It would appear for anyone to be of relevance they must be capable of reporting back a competing list of extraordinary achievements, wealth and status. There is nothing inherently wrong with striving to be the world’s best. However, chasing success for its own sake can be destructive. For a start, there is no finish line as commonly perceived. The chase will always continue, so you best be sure what you are doing is worth your time. Many soon discover their popular image of success still leaves them unfulfilled. Success in its popular perception derives from a perception of others, failing to consider the more important, personal element- self-improvement. Today’s pressure to succeed now reaches overwhelming levels. The constant pressure to keep up with our peers raises the question- have we all become lazier or are we just chasing too much in a world that never stops demanding? Dr K from his YouTube channel HealthyGamers deconstructs the left-behind mindset, revealing the ways the popular perception of success gives way to deep-seated fears and obstacles. We can learn achievement/success through only social comparisons can become our worst enemies. Success must come from a deeper hunger to improve oneself. By shedding light on the importance of delayed gratification, acceptance and gradualism, success can be a proactive process for everyone. In this way, more of us can stop dwelling on failure and work to bring change in ourselves and others.

August 28, 2022 / 1 Comment

What is an HSP- reframing our understanding of sensitivity

In 2018, the Oxford English Dictionary added a new meaning to a snowflake- “an offensive word for a person who you think expects special treatment or is too sensitive to criticism and easily upset”. The polarised political scene, amidst global change and crises, has pushed a series of attacks on the age of millennials and gen-zs. It is not too surprising to hear another rant about today’s youth being described as too sensitive, lazy, stubborn and compulsive. The extent to which this is true or not, a question emerges what does it mean to be too sensitive beyond the political scene, in the mind and body? I recently encountered the term HSP- a highly sensitive person and learned there can still be surprising acceptance for sensitivity, including using this personality trait as a strength in today’s precarious times. In her seminal work, The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You (1996), Dr Elaine Aron takes the reader through neurology and psychology to show sensitivity is not just about tantrums and stubborn children. The characteristic of being highly sensitive reveals an ability to process the world at a deeper level, possessing an intuition to notice and react to the world in greater detail. Her study beginning in 1991 continues to be a foundation for harnessing not denigrating sensitivity in its strengths and battles in improving mental health.

June 5, 2022 / 0 Comments

Being introverted should not mean loneliness

Being introverted is not the same as being lonely. Despite living most of my adult life alone, withdrawn from all social settings, I now realise this is not healthy. The digital age has been a gift to introverts like me. There are more ways than ever to tune out from the world and enjoy our presence. Yet by relying on more escapes, does disconnecting from people go further than just being introverted? Introverts may already be overlooking their loneliness. The condition reaches points deeper than mere social isolation- disconnection from people and reality. This article hopes to open the discussion about loneliness and make serial introverts question if a solitary life is really what they want. I do not mean to toxify the desire for alone time but to remind everyone about the need for human love and companionship in a fast-moving world. Loneliness is a deep issue, transcending personality types. The duty falls on us to help each other discover meaning through friends, family, neighbours, colleagues, social groups and more.

March 22, 2022 / 0 Comments

How to Read More Books

It is fair to say I hated reading. All I really cared about was to capture all the ideas and drawings in a brief moment. Even comic books didn’t offer relief- there were too many practical things, responsibilities and games that appeared more approachable than reading itself. The task of reading reminded me of my time at school, the many forced textbooks deciding for us why an author or text ought to be read. Without growing up as a ‘natural’ reader or book hobbyist, reading like for many can be seen retreating to brisk moments over web articles and social media drama. It is not uncommon to hear the busied, grown adult exclaim they have almost no books. Giggles arise when the question becomes “when was the time you last read a book?” I was in the same camp until I hit a wall in my search for good habits- learning has and always will derive from the source of reading. We can all quench our thirst for knowledge and skill by redeveloping our relationship with books. A book reader is not just about esoteric texts or prolonged study sessions. This blog post offers some tips on how we can fine-tune our way to more book reading.

February 14, 2022 / 1 Comment

Break Time and Video Games

In a world that never stops demanding, everyone needs a worthy mental escape. Each year seems to bring more responsibilities as we age and explore discover new directions in life. Many of us begin to realise how little time and energy is left to ourselves. The narrowed space leaves us to crave for a widening escape, to forget about the world’s troubles and be entertained. Some dash off to party their night away, others reach for the beer bottle, while most just crash on their sofa binge-watching their favourite series. What about gaming?! I understand how we relax is not a comparison and will always depend on time and interest. But it is strange to see how few of us express video games as being a good mental break. Video games can be a healthier, more stimulating and social experience than many other choices. This blog post takes time to express appreciation for the world of gaming, its development and its offering.

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